Most people think regulating the nervous system is complicated, or something only “wellness people” understand. Don’t worry if you don’t know what it means. In plain English, it’s just your body switching modes. Sometimes you’re in go mode. Sometimes you’re in calm mode.
The problem is that a lot of people stay stuck in go mode all day without realizing it. That’s what leads to burnout, bad sleep, brain fog and feeling like you’re not yourself. Real nervous system regulation isn’t fancy. It’s the small things you do throughout the day that teach your body to switch back into calm mode when it needs to.
You don't need big routines or a weekend retreat to get there. You just need simple tools that help your system reset. The eleven techniques below work anywhere, and they help you feel clear, focused and grounded again.
1. Slow, Controlled Breathing
Your breath is the fastest way to shift your internal state.
Use box breathing for five minutes. Four seconds in, four hold, four out, four hold.
This activates the parasympathetic system and signals safety.
2. Hinoki or Pause for Sensory Regulation
Scent reaches the limbic system within seconds.
Japanese hinoki oil contains alpha pinene and bornyl acetate, compounds shown to lower stress markers and improve calm.
Smell it directly from the bottle or place drops on a wood block while you breathe. If you prefer a wood and citrus combo, we made Pause just for you.
3. Natural Sound
Your auditory system relaxes when it hears birds, water or gentle wind.
These sounds tell your brain the environment is safe.
Put on a short soundscape when you need to reset. I prefer to use noise cancelling headphones, but that's optional.
4. Reduce Visual Noise
Harsh light and screens keep your system in alert mode.
Switch to soft indirect lighting. I love using color changing bulbs so I can adjust based on my mood.
Your brain recognizes this as a cue to slow down.
5. Ground Through Your Feet
Stand on a textured surface or outside if you can.
Feel your feet. Let your posture soften.
Grounding helps your nervous system shift out of defense mode.
I love the outdoors and just feeling grass helps, but I bought a really comfortable small rug that I also like rubbing my feet on while doing the rest of the steps.
6. Micro-Movement
Two minutes of gentle walking or stretching regulates the vagus nerve and reduces sympathetic activation.
Your body doesn't need intensity. It needs movement.
7. Visual Reset
When stressed, your eyes narrow into tunnel vision.
Look at something far away for 20 seconds.
This widens awareness and interrupts the stress response.
8. Temperature Exposure
Cold exposure triggers a parasympathetic rebound effect that calms the system once you stop.
Warmth like a sauna or hot shower softens tension and helps you shift into rest.
I've heard from many customers that taking a hot shower and then using hinoki oil with breathwork was a great routine for them.
9. Externalize Your Thoughts
Your brain treats unspoken thoughts like open tasks.
Write down what is on your mind.
It reduces cognitive load and quiets the default mode network. I also find writing a few good things that happened throughout the day helps. It's really easy to dwell on the things that went wrong, but it just causes more stress and worse sleep. Focusing on positive memories always helps me calm down and feel good.
10. Safe Sensory Pairing
Combine breathing, scent and sounds at the same time.
Multisensory inputs amplify the body’s safety response and regulate you faster.
11. Mini-Resets Every Two Hours
Regulation works best through consistency.
Five minutes every two hours prevents overload instead of trying to undo it all at night.
Small signals repeated often create long-term calm.
Putting It All Together
Your nervous system listens to your inputs. It's very hard to think your way into calm mode.
Slow breaths, natural scent, gentle sound and grounding all send one message: you're safe.
When your body feels safe, it works better. You think clearer, sleep deeper and handle stress with more control.
Regulating your nervous system isn't about doing more or finding a hack.
It's about giving your body what it understands.
Simple, natural signals repeated throughout the day.
Bonus? Almost everything on this list is free. And, the hinoki oil that I source directly from Japan is a lot cheaper than traveling to Japan to spend time in the forests (smiley face emoji).
